Bands of Promise

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Two small bands of gold

Promises bigger than life

49 years strong

12-27-1969

Tomorrow will be our forty-ninth wedding anniversary. When I think back on that day it was so very special. I smiled so much that my face hurt. The snowstorm that went up the east coast earlier in the week kept a few from attending,  but the wedding went on as planned. My friend who was supposed to play at our wedding was snowed in, so at the last minute my co-worker, who was the music teacher at my school, graciously filled in with only two day’s notice!  Through all the ups and downs of life, we have managed to stay together and love each other as we promised on that cold December day.

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Wedding Photo: Jim Bowman

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Marriage Investments

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Being married is like investing in the stock market

What’s happening is always fluctuating

There are ups and downs // highs and lows

The only way to gain is to stay in for the long haul

Some choose to invest in penny stocks with low return

Others invest in high end stocks that bring rewards

There are those day traders who choose not to commit

Jumping on the next sure thing, hoping for a rise

Marriage like stocks will inevitably tank at times

Those who bail out leave a lot behind

Staying in and riding out the dip brings upswings

Returns rebound as things can get back on track

After a lifetime of ups and downs one hopes

To have a nest egg to help them live comfortably

Reviewing the highs and lows together

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

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The Unknown

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You might think ignorance and self-confidence are a strange combination, but when it comes to life, they are sometimes the secret to success. When we are young and invincible, we are ready to try anything. As we get older we are less and less inclined. We are fortunate not to know what the future holds.

Ignorance and self-confidence
Take us places where
Rational thinking might slam the door.
Telling us it is too hard
…too much
…too complicated
…beyond our abilities.
Getting married // having a baby
Being a parent // growing old
All come without instructions.
Still // we step into the unknown
Thankfully ignorant of what the future holds
Knowing that somehow // we will make it
To the end //mistakes and all

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Photo: Jim Bowman

Cracked but Not Broken

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After twenty-five years of marriage things were unraveling.  Our boys were off in school and the empty nest syndrome was weighing down on us. Depression was challenging every part of our marriage. On our anniversary we went out to dinner and as was our tradition we exchanged gifts. She gave me the tile above inscribed with the words of hope for our marriage. I have had it on our wall ever since. A couple of years ago, it fell and cracked in half. I got some glue and cemented it together and hung it back on the wall. I thought, how symbolic of our marriage, cracked but not broken! Next year will be our fiftieth!

Cracked but Not Broken (a Quadrille)

Twenty-five years

Things were shaky

Gifts after dinner…

Tokens of love exchanged

For me ‘twas a tile

Words …of hope for the future

“Paint me a picture,

Draw me with you,

And together we can see the sunrise!”

Still together…

Cracked but not broken

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Tile: (c) Irene 94   –   from Halmark

Our prompt today in d’Verse was from Sarah Connor. She asked us to write about tokens of love that we find significant in our life. I decided to write a quadrille.

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Paradigm Shift

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Co-dependence can be very destructive to relationships. In marriage, when one partner expects their partner to fit into their plans and their schedule, it isn’t long before tension and conflicts develop. For the co-dependent partner it is a major paradigm shift to learn to live with, but somewhat independent of the other person. Today at d’Verse, Amaya is asking us to write a Pentimento poem, which derives from the Italian meaning  for repentance. It is to show how one can change their way of thinking in a way that makes life more positive for all. This is my story.

Paradigm Shift

Committed for life// together we stood

Taking our vows that day

Smiles on our face // stars in our eyes

When opposites commit,  fire sometimes flies.

One holds on the other wants space

A head on collision in the race

Trains not always riding on the same tracks

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Co-dependence can be overwhelming

I thought togetherness meant doing everything together

I learned independence is sometimes better

Struggling // I pushed off on my own

Not always expecting reciprocation.

Creativity emerged I had not expected

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Life is much better now that I’ve reflected

Togetherness may mean riding parallel tracks

Commitment may mean traveling in the same direction…

Leaving co-dependence behind…

Maintaining each ones identity and self-worth

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Photos: Dwight L. Roth

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Our Love

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Our Love  (A Quadrille)

Our love’s a poem

written in the tide…

Spelling out our dreams

on the shore of life

Poem of lasting quality

Ebb and flow from day to day

Smooth, serene, mirroring the sky…

Crashing // bold from deep within

Our Love…

Written for the ages

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

Today’s challenge from Victoria is to write a Quadrille (of 44 words) using the word poem in it. Come visit us at d’Verse~Poetry Pub and join the challenge. It is a very inspiring group of writers who share and read together.

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Leap of Faith

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Today, at the d’verse~Poetry Pub, we have been asked to write a Quadrille (44 words) using the word leap. Check out the d’verse site at: https://dversepoets.com/

Today, the first day January 2018

I remember

On the steps of the the Ad Building

You captivated me with your innocent smile

In 1969, as America took the leap

Landing men on the moon,

We planned our leap of faith

Vows lasting a lifetime

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

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Relationships

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Relationships

Relationships like railings have a central focus

Holding two similar yet different pieces together

When simply laid on the post they will soon fall apart

Some have nails of commitment holding them in place

And salt treatment to help them last twenty years

Many make commitments to stay joined for a lifetime

In time decay occurs around the things that brought them together

If left uncared for those things will not be strong enough

And the relationship will fall apart

I am afraid the song “Love Will Keep Us Together”

Is not enough

For when the decay begins

Love as it used to be goes right out the window

The song should read, “Work will keep us together

Relationships take hard work, compassion, and forgiveness

And most of all God’s grace to keep them together

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

 

 

Opposites Attract

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I heard that opposites attract. This was true of my Grandparents who died when I was six years old. Grandpa was strong and composed and Grandma was outgoing and full of energy. She tended to be impatient at times, but was a loving caring person. I am writing a biographical fiction about their life. Much of what was passed down is only a few sentence describing events in their life. I am taking those events and embellishing them with what I think might have occurred.  This poem is an example of one event, their courtship and marriage. The earlier poem, Goodbye Little Sister, is another event I decided to write about. I hope to have a book of stories for my grandchildren about their life  that are based on facts, but stories made up by me.

Opposites Attract

Strong young Christian a hard-working man

Living miles away with his Ohio clan

A concrete mason and veterinarian on the side

Tall and handsome with a smile you can’t hide

Folks from Pennsylvania traveled west to visit

Family and friends and church folks that fidget

Daughter Linda a young beauty vivacious

A smart young woman with smile infectious

Christian a reserved guy and not too forward

Found this outgoing girl not backward

She made her way to him through the mingle

Introducing herself her smile made him tingle

She told him her story of a valley so big

Between Jack’s and Stone Mountains where they all lived

Amish and Mennonites with red barns farmed the land

Dairy cows and alfalfa fields shocking corn by hand

She came back again on the train to be there

Anticipating the visits, he could not wait to see her

It didn’t take long for this smart young woman

To win his heart she didn’t have to woo him

They spent hours together each time that she came

He showed her his work marked with his name

A year of letters and visits to see him

He asked for her hand she didn’t refuse him

Plans were made for a big family wedding

Family and friends all celebrated their joining

They settled in a house at the edge of his town

Raised a family saw tragedy and spread joy all around

Grandpa’s fine concrete lasted a hundred years or more

Grandma’s good heart always looked out for the poor

They left a legacy we all can be proud of

And stories to tell from two opposites we all love

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

Still Loving You

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What does it take to stay married for forty-seven years? It takes commitment and love to make a marriage work.  None of us are saints to live with in a relationship. It does not take long for the honeymoon to wear off and the lifetime reality show to start!  Adjusting to one another is not an easy task. There are many things that can derail a marriage. But I believe it is the ongoing commitment that makes it last. For some the vow of commitment is, ” for as long as we love each other.” For me it is, “for as long as we both shall live, we will love each other!”

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After all these years

47 to be exact

We are the odd ones

Still together all intact

Many ups and downs

Through thick and thin

And two little boys

With big wide grins

There were times

We could have bailed

But our commitment is solid

Our love did not fail

Now looking back

On all these years

With six beautiful grands

That we love to cheer

For better and for worse

We stayed by those vows

Love includes both

Not one or the other

I love you