Naturally, we view relationships through our own eyes
taking in all that we enjoy // perceiving what will be
Yet, as relationship expectations grow, the delusion increases
Wishful thinking, full of wants and needs draws us
to assumptions of crashing cataracts… leaving us dashed…
often broken on the rocks of unfulfilled expectations…
as life roars on around us // carrying away our dreams
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Co-dependence is a quicksand of mutual expectations
turning a loving relationship into sinking turmoil
sucked under by our own needs and desires
to a point of suffocation
Photo: Dwight L. Roth
Roth Poetry 
Wonderfully put and sadly true..I love this closing line, “sucked under by our own needs and desires to a point of suffocation”
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Sadly it does happen! Thank you for your great comment.
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Wonderful analogy, Dwight. If you can get past the closing line it’ll be saved.
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Thank you Elle. Yes usually one party just can’t let go and the other just can’t breathe!
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You’re welcome. Yes, Dwight, I know that feeling well.
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Mr. Roth, I would like to thank you for writing such a great post. Bringing awareness to what co-dependency can really do. My mother was a classic textbook co-dependent. I think it’s deeply misunderstood and appreciate you writing this so much!
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Thank you very much Eleanor. It is very easy to become co-dependent in any relationship. Making assumptions always seems to end badly. I really appreciate your affirming comment.
Dwight
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A very insightful poem about a trap that all too many people fall into.
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It does happen sometimes without even realizing. It can be very difficult to move beyond it to a new level of relating.
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Yes, it does.
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Thank you for your comment Liz.
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You’re welcome, Dwight.
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Dwight,
Quicksands indeed! Very insightful. I can’t think of a better metaphor. Yet in such relationships “neediness” overwhelms and suffocates. Is it insecurity? Selfishness? Certainly great expectations.
pax,
Dora
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Thank you Dora. It may be a combination of all of that overwhelms us. Thank you for your great comment.
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So true and insightful Dwight!
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Thank you so much Valerie!
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I think expectations seem the outweigh the inherent realities of maintaining a relationship without stepping into life’s unavoidable pools of quicksand, every now and then ..
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You are right. We do need some expectations, but with some give and take to make them work! Thanks Ivor.
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Whoops … a song to go with my comments ..
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Give me just a little more time!
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A GOOD WARNING! Co-dependence can be a real quicksand… better to be interdependent!
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Yes I garee… although it is not always easy.
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I love this one Dwight, its one of your best for me ❣️ Its sadly the truth of most relationships, and the way you describe the suffocation is perfect 👌
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Being we are all selfish by nature, it does create a problem when trying to get along with others. Thank you. I am so glad it connected with you.
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You’re most welcome. It was a great pleasure reading this 🙂
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Love this one – especially this line… “Co-dependence is a quicksand of mutual expectations.”
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Thank you so much for your comment.
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My pleasure 💕
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So true…a proper explanation and warning.
Your poem is filled with powerful and poignant emotions.
A great write, Dwight!
(((HUGS)))
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Thank you Carolyn. I have had a lot of experience with this since it tend to have a co-dependent personality. It is hard to learn to be an independent person.
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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If something could be beyond true, this would be it, Dwight.
❤
David
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It does happen and often before you realize! Thank you David.
Dwight
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Dwight, a brilliantly written poem describing my parents’ miserable marriage…and many other marriages, too, I am sure! Wonderful insights, meaningfully expressed. ❤
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Thank you Cheryl! I am sure there are many marriages that are in different stages of co-dependency. It is hard to be together and yet remain independent! I am so glad it connected with you.
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Wow Dwight this is a
Raw, real, honest poem and there are many stages of this. Marriage while one of our biggest teachers, our biggest challenges. We have to work hard not to succumb to the quicksand and there are times of just wanting to sink and give up. I know the feeling well. Sending you blessings of 💕
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Thank you Cindy! Reality is often that way. I have had my times in and out of the quicksand over the years in a variety of situations. Expectations will do that to you!
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You’re soooo welcome Dwight! Yes, that is very well said… expectations get me in trouble everytime❣️
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:>)
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🤗
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Well said about co dependance!!
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Thank you so much! It does happen quite often!
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Loved it roth… The last line is such an ignored truth.. Grace ur presence at https://homemakersthehiddenforce.wordpress.com/2021/09/16/soul-the-best-passive-income/?preview=true and let me know how i did poetically
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Thank you very much!
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