Children are curious, you know
Until an adult tells them they are not to be
“Don’t touch that, you’ll get your hands dirty”
“I’ll tell you about that when you get older”
“It is not polite to ask such questions”
Curiosity silenced…
Lessons lost
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Quenching curiosity with authority can be very damaging… especially since we seem to lose that curious streak growing up
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Yes, I believe the same is true with music and singing! Kids who get told they can’t sing never sing again!! :>( We parents have a big responsibility of affirming our kids curiosity!
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A reminder found! In your words today. ❤
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Thank you … so important!
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It is! I was lucky enough to never let my creativity nor curiosity pilot lights ever get extinguished; I am an advocate and practicer of your message!
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Yes, I feel the same way… I am getting to be an old man and I am still asking inappropriate questions from the politically correct! :>)
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Oh how sad! But we adults all do it, I think. I try to see the world with a child’s eyes when my kids ask me things. It’s fascinating what they come out with!
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Yes, they are most curious about the world around them. When we listen and answer we are the beneficiary! Thank for your comment!
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I think as adult we also limit our our curiosity and ability to give new things a try. We ourselves still obey those “don’t do” comments from our childhood. It becomes part of us, endemic in our psychological mindset. To regain that sense of imagination, creativity and curiosity we have to start with taking a step back as adults before we run free like we wanted to do as children. Only then Will we be able to encourage the following generations to be free in exploring their unencumbered curiosity.
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Thank you for your great response. As adults we tend to worry too much about what others might think of us. It slows the imagainative process!
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Yes, my son will say I’m the killer of curiosity since I was a worry wort. Can’t say I see him any worse for wear for it. I actually THOUGHT I encouraged it.. 🤗❤️💖
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I am sure you probably balanced it all out in the end! We all have our things we do that make our kids cringe! Thank you for your comment.
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🤣🤣🤣 I think you’re right Dwight. I’m going with that❣️
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:>)
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Indeed, suppressing curiosity could be considered a crime.
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Along with a lot of other thoughtless things parents sometimes do and say to their children! Thanks Ron.
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They’re delightful, aren’t they? I think it was Alan Watts that said that the holy grail for psychologists is how to get babies to talk in their jargon, because babies know the secrets of life, haha.
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So true! Thank you so much for your great comment!
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So much AMEN to this. So sad. I just read a thing about kids relating to each other on that “weird” level, and how we “shush” it as they get older. I feel like if we still did this as adults, we might all relate better, and relax more. 😉 Stay weird, and stay curious. That’s my new mantra.
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You are right De. We can either be included in their curiosity or we can miss out on many great adventures and discoveries as they develop. Thank you so much!
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“It’s not polite to ask such questions,” brought back some memories. Kids really have no filter which if refreshing and scary at times!
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When channeled rather than squelched it can be a learning experience for all! Thank you so much!
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Welcome! 🌸
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You know, Dwight, this reminds me of a Harry Chapin song – do you know which one I’m referring to?
❤
David
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yes, I do…. there are a couple… Cats in the Cradle … and Teach your Children Well. Thank you David for reminding us of these great songs!
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Answering those curious questions wasn’t always easy. 💙
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I know what you mean. They always like to push our limits. Thanks Elle.
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I sometimes encouraged them too. 😁 You’re welcome. 🙂
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:>)
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I used to ask questions that invited my parents to respond in nonsense, like: “What language do clouds speak, Mom? And how do the trees know what they’re saying? Or do they?”
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That was a reflection of your insatiable curiosity Ron. Turned yourself into a poet as a result! LOL
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Dwight I was blessed to be turned loose to be a feral child (i.e. neglected) and so saw more than any sheltered child, and not all of it good. I survived it. Where problems came in is when my folks tried to rein me in as a teenager. lol. There is a balancing act in there for parents, where they want to keep a kids’ curiosity alive but keep them safe also. I should ask my sons how good of a job I did with keeping it balanced for them… Good poem that has generated a lot of discussion.
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You probably grew up pretty fast as a result. Teen years are often volatile anyway. Your question for your son might be very interesting to hear! Thanks for your thoughtful comment Lisa!
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You’re very welcome, Dwight. If I ask my sons will let you know what they say.
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:>)
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Just what I might have expected a retired teacher to write in response to that prompt! I am sure you were NEVER one to squelch curiosity!!
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Oh, I tried not to!! :>)
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❤
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As a parent and now grandparent, I have one cardinal rule, answer all questions for children, and reinforce their curiosity and creativity. I’m just saying.
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Yes, I am with you on that Glenn! Thanks!
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An important message Dwight …. I was lucky, my curiosity was allowed to thrive … (Though I still can’t sing)
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Good news and bad news! too bad about the singing. You have acquired an deep love for listening to many kinds of music! Thanks Ivor.
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I wish your poem weren’t true, but sadly, it is.
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I wish it weren’t also! Maybe teen years would not be so difficult if dialogue were kept open!
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Yes, channel that energy to creating!
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Brutal, but true.Good reminder to let my two curious monkeys continue there explorations and their questions.
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Thank you very much! Yes, let then ask their questions
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Its so sad when a child’s curiousity is not handled well and positively. Good one Dwight.
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Thank you Grace for your comment. You are right!
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So true. A child’s natural curiosity should never be quenched….although there were some questions that left me grasping for words!!
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I can imagine!! :>) Thanks so much!
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Love your bringing up the often unintended mistake of many who stifle a child’s curiosity. It is damaging to learning, what a pity! Thoughtful observation Dwight!
Hank
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Thank you Hank! Curiosity is a very important child development experience.
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Dwight, such a relatable poem. Love it! ❤ I have heard it said that children's art actually gets worse with instruction!
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Thank you Cheryl. I can see that happening. Very sad indeed! Seems we try to box them up at an early age!
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What a lovely lesson…for us adults
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Thank you very much! Sometimes it is easier said than done.
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A very thought provoking poem. Curiosity contained through frequent handholding would only create a line of stereotyped children in future.
I really like the below lines by Kahlil Gibran (The prophet) – on children
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
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Thank you Deb! this is very true! They have to make their own future from our example.
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Ugh. Not about your poetic creation, but the truth found in it.
Not for my daughter though. 😊 💕
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I think we all tend to overprotect and want to guide our children. Most will survive in spite of us!
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You got me there. I was a very protective mom. Kids get to a certain age and we realize, we have to let go and let them be who they are meant to be. A process, for sure. True, somehow we survive. Some of us even survived drinking out of a water hose! 😂
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Ha ha! you are right! Awful tasting water as I recall!
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haha I don’t remember that – only how thirsty Arizona summers would make us. Even the heat didn’t stop us from playing outside though.
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I can’t imagine playing outside in the summer in AZ.
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It was mostly miserable, but kids need to play. 😄
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:>)
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Those last two lines hit hard. Parents should encourage their children’s muses and curiosity; it leads them, drives them. Without it, where’s the point? Knowledge is a gift and with it, we’re able to make proper, informed decisions. As well, you never know what you can find. It may just drive a passion or dream, all stemming from initial curiosity. Beautifully and poignantly said, Dwight. It’s a powerful message.
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Thank you Lucy for your wonderful comment! You are right we need to nurture rather than stifle children in thier pursuits.
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True that that’s why we are adults, our curiosity silences by us, our fears, and hence our happiness silenced.
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An interesting perspective. I think you are right. Even as adults we are told by others that our ideas or dreams or curiosities are not valid. Very sad when that happens. It is so important to affirm others at any age. Thank you so much!
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🙏🙂
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So true. So important.
As a K teacher, a mom, and grandmom I’ve always been about curiosity and questions encouraged!!!
The future belongs to the curious and those searching.
(((HUGS))) 🙂
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That’s why I guess we say children are curious minds and answering their question at such tender age sometimes become more interesting & sometime become difficult.
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Yes and so important not to just brush them off when we are uncomfortable!
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True that!
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So very true
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Thank you Derrick!
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Don’t be parents like this!!!
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Thanks Chuck!
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Always a pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, Dwight!! Have a great day!
😊👍✨✨🎉
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I was the bane of my parent’s exact approach as you name it, I ignored them and it was indeed such fun and much learned and a few actual wounds too.
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And you survived to tell the tales! Good for you! How did your parents survive it all?
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I think they eventually got over it, my mother still raises her eyebrow when she recounts an escapade 🙂
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I am sure she does! :>)
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Well said, Dwight!
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Thank you Eugenia!
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Most welcome!
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Dwight, I think sometimes all too often we adults forget what curiosity means. If my mother were alive today, she would tell you I was Miss Curiosity 101. She eventually found out and accepted the fact that I could not be a quiet, non-questioning child. That only prepared her for my siblings who followed and whose curiosities were off the charts…in a good way of course! LOL 😜 Very good poem! 👍🏼
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Thank you so much Kim! It is great when parents adapt to their children! You turned out very well!
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LMBO Dwight, I don’t think my parents really had a choice! 🤣😁😂
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Ha ha!! :>)
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those last two words are heavy and true. profound poem, Dwight!
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Thank you very much! It is true. What we tell kids about themselves never leaves them.
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indeed!
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I hope, fervently hope … there was never a day I squashed my children’s curiosity. I love your quadrille.
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Thank you so much Helen! I doubt that you did! As creative as you are… I am sure you passed that curiosity on to your children!
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Definitely some truth in this poem. Such a balancing act. Nicely done.
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It really is a balancing act! Thank you very much!
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Beautiful and truth personified in your words, Dwiight. Lovely.
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Thank you Jeff!
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Welcome, Dwight!!
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Very thoughtful, I couldn’t agree more!
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Thank you very much!
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You’re very welcome 🌸
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Indeed, it’s an reminder. Thank you ❤️.
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I know you do very well with your daughter stimulating her curiosity!!
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I try my best but sometimes I feel that still I need little bit push. Thank you so much ❤️.
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:>)
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100% agree, curiosity dies when fear exists
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This is so true! Thank you very much!
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I love childrens. Thay make us feel a lot of thing, sometimes our own self.
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They are wonderful and full of life! Thank you!
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My pleasure.
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I know and that is why I create as often as I can.
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Yes, never stop learning! Thank you!
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So true!
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Oh.. So true😀
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Finding that fine balance between nurturing that curiosity and keeping the children safe is very hard
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Yes it is, but so important!
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Great
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Thank You!
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Thank you very much!
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