Tell your story
Let it roll from your mind like an avalanche
Mighty and intense
Driven by unstoppable forces
Knowing that if not you
No one
Will ever know the depth of joy and pain
It will be lost
Forever
Now is the opportune time to write your Memoirs. With Covid-19 keeping us from the many activities we used to do, you now have the time to reflect on your life. The shadow of death all around us reminds us that our mortality is not an ongoing thing. You can do it all and self-publish it yourself.
You might think you can’t remember all the details of the past enough to write a memoir. But, it is a lot easier than you might imagine. Take time to reflect on your life. Remember your family events, funny incidents, serious incidents, births, deaths, travels, school experiences, church experiences and many more. Think of the significant things that have affected your life and made you the person you are today. As you write, the memories come back and build on themselves.
When I wrote my childhood memoirs, I sat down and wrote one story each evening for thirty days. It was like writing a stream of consciousness poem. Write what ever comes to mind, you can edit later. You don’t need more than two or three pages each. Short stories are much easier for others to read.
Each day, I emailed my stories to all my family members. They enjoyed reading them and often sent tid-bits to add to the story or corrected my faulty memories. They were my editors! I have done four memoirs and self-published them since 2014.
Write your stories on your Word Processor. I used MS Word for mine. Use at least a #14 font. Save each one with a title. Then copy each one into an ongoing Memoir file that will become your book. You can include photos as well. Change everything to black and white. That keeps the cost much more reasonable. You can edit and move stories around as you choose.
When you are done with the stories, create a table of contents, and a title page with your personal publishing information on it. Make note that you reserve all rights to the content. You can make a copyright symbol with a ( a small c and )… (c).
Create a cover page file, with a title and a picture, if you like, and your name. Keep the title page on a separate file so that it can be printed on heavier paper.
Load your completed story and cover pdf.file on a flash drive. Take it to your local Office Supply store (Office Max/Office Depot) to get printed. They can print them in half size 4.25 x 5.5 and put a spiral binding on them. You can choose to get a clear plastic cover added as well. For 100 pages it can run $9 to $14 per book. Get at least twenty copies or more for the best price. It doesn’t cost that much more that getting ten. Watch for discount print coupons as well.
Do it for your grandchildren, do it for yourself. It is so rewarding when you are finished. Tell your story so that it is not forgotten in time. Give them to family and friends. They will thank you! You can also publish them as an e-book for free on Amazon Kindle.
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Photo of me and my older brother on our cistern with our pet goat!
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That is so true and profound.
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I believe it is so important to document our stories. Otherwise they die with us!
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Dwight, a very practical and helpful post on a low-stress way to write a memoir. I am trying to record family history through my poems. If I do get around to writing a traditional autobiography, I will certainly use this method. ❤
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It really works very well! Thanks Chreryl.
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I love this idea, Dwight… You did mention it to me earlier as well, I remember….
Memories are a gateway to the past… And no better way to go through those beautiful moments than the way you have explained. Thank you!! 💐❤️
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It really is as much fun as it is work!
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This goes hand in hand with the post I did on self-publishing. a few weeks ago.
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Great job, Dwight!!, 💐🙌
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Thanks! :>)
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wow!
that picture immediately reminded me of my grandfather, who was a bricklayer and a mason…
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We had a lot of fun on that old cistern! Thanks.
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So cool, Dwight. I’d love to do one of these books but have my mom tell the stories. She’s one of the few oldtimers left in my family to tell them. Thanks for the step-by-step instructions.
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Yes, Yes! Write her stories … one at a time. I did that with stories of my Grandfather and created a biographical fiction of his life based mostly on facts… I added the details!
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You’re very productive in memoir writing, Dwight! It’s very encouraging.
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Thank you Miriam. I feel it is so important to tell you stories. I have done a variety of writing along with my memoirs. My wife finally wrote hers as well.
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The way you send out your pieces and got feedback is perfect. I’m glad your wife wrote hers. I’m half way through writing the first one.
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Wonderful. and it does not have to be all in one book. I did four different stages of life.
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Yes, this first one will cover one year.
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:>)
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What a great idea! I love this!
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Thank You! It is a great way to pass on your stories!
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So thoughtful! Thanks for sharing this Dwight 🙂
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You are never too young to start writing your memoirs!! Thanks Jay!
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That’s such a good idea! I wish my grandparents had done that for my family. In my own case, I’ve mined too much of my life for fiction to state the actual facts with any degree of certainty.
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You can do an autobiographical fiction. if there is such a thing!! :>)
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There is indeed such a thing! I’ve written plenty of it.
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Nobody will know but you in a few years.
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Great inspiration here. I might add to capture the memories of your elders. There are family stories my dad has been telling for years but they aren’t written down anywhere. Maybe this is the time for me to get them on paper while he can correct any mistakes.
Thanks for the idea.
Be well,
Ali
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Yes. Keep those stories as well. When my father in law was 65 he wrote 43 stories of his childhood on the typewriter and made copies for his four children. I took those and copied them to digital format and printed his book for all the family to read.
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That is wonderful. I am going to schedule a call with my dad to write one of his stories down. I really appreciate you getting me going on this. I know I will treasure it.
Take care.
Ali
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One story a week and in a month or two you have a book of his stories! Great idea.
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Yes, that sounds like a perfect quarantine project.
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Yes, get them while you can!
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Love your encouragement and ideas, Dwight. 👏🏼 I wrote 50 personal stories last year, beginning in August and “finishing” in March. I started the project after my dad passed. The experience was cathartic and revealing; I highly recommend it. The number of stories doesn’t matter as the process of sitting, writing, remembering, and releasing. Maybe the stories are shared, maybe they are not. I was surprised by the detailed memories that came back to me when I allowed myself to be in that moment. Great post! ✍🏼😊
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This is wonderful. Yes, the memories do come back as you write… even the details. It is great that you did that. It is like reliving your life again in a wonderful way. If you had a bad life as a child, It could be very thereaputic as well.
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Thank you. It is an incredible experience-remembering the details while writing (sights, sounds, smells) that would remain buried if not for us taking the time to “go there.” I agree, yes, reliving through our writing can help us reframe our past.💓
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So true!
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That’s what I’m doing now. Just sent if off..
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Wonderful! Three cheers for you! Your grandchildren will love it.
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Just sent it off to an editor.. not to grandkids. Alas, I have none of my own, although I have a number of step-grandkids.
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Wonderful, none the less! A great piece of history.
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Well said. That’s precisely the idea whether in printed or non-printed format. I do also keep printed photo albums 🙂
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The stories can add so much to our history for our grandchildren. Thank you.
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It will be lost
Forever
It is most opportune to take the cue, Dwight! Otherwise, it stays with us and would not able to see the light of day!
Hank
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Yes, and the older we get the closer it is to losing it all!
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Choosing what to include and what to leave out is the problem
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Include it all! You can edit after the fact! :>)
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🙂
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Editing too soon breaks the chain of thought… keep writing!
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You make a good point here. I used to write a diary when I was a kid/teenage, but really disliked that my family did not respect it as private. So I started writing poetry and essays that would make me remember the day without them been explicitly about my day —if that makes any sense.
Your post made me rethink the subject. Maybe it’s time.
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Yes, write them down one at a time for your grandchildren!
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That’s a great project Dwight. (K)
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Thank you! It takes some time, but it is worth it!
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A lovely photograph and post
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Thank you. that one goes back over sixty years!
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You’re welcome
Amazing!!!😊❤
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How wonderful Dwight!
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Thank you Linda! Time to start writing!! :>)
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Good Advice! I actually printed out my own booklets then paid to have them stapled together when i started writing again after my dad passed away many years ago.
I generally use size #20 depending on the font on my computer because i read two pages on the screen at a time when writing on my computer. I also use Private Diary Pro, My Notes and Diaro on my tablet and phone.
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Great idea! When you view them in half page size that #20 font gets reduced considerable. The idea of getting them stapled somewhere is a goo one. I might have to try that!
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Wise words, such wise words. I have self published eighteen books of my poetry. I suspect the poems, along with many photographs and art within the books, say much about me, my life, the way I think …. all of it. I am leaving them behind for generations to follow. Perhaps by that time I will have published many more?
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Wow! That is really great! You have the right idea for sure! Keep up the good work.
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Thank you Helen!
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Your poem is wonderful! More so are your suggestions for writing and printing. All my stuff is held captive in the computer. I did manage to do a book of poems for my siblings in 2016, but it ended up costing $26 per copy. I paid it for my siblings, because it was about growing up together, but I can’t afford to do that again.
I’m going to keep your advice and pray about this. I have asked several people and get no answers. This just may be what I need.
I journal every day for the past 7 years.
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Wow you do have a lot of material waiting to get printed. You could check with Office Max and get an estimate of cost without doing anything. You might find it works for you.
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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Thanks Chuck!
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I like that idea of “…one story each evening for thirty days.” I think I will try that. 2 or 3 pages each… that’s do-able! Thanks for the idea. ❤
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It is a great adventure back in time!
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Great poem Dwight and info. I just copied and pasted what you wrote in my notes. I started the blog to start my book that seems dead and buried when I revisit it. Then my blog takes so much time with writing and responding and then there is that thing called work and life so i never get to it like I want cuz i don’t know what I want to say anymore. I could have written a book with as many words as I’ve written. And all this sitting.. good damn thing my work makes me move.
Any good ideas for “lost” would be appreciated! ❤️ Cindy
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What I found was that when I began to write each evening it put me in the Zone and I found it to be a great stress reliever and relaxing, because it was fun to revisit all these memories! Start with the most familiar ones and the rest will come.
Glad to be of help!. I understand about reading. It does take a lot of time.
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When I was writing my first book, what I did was to devote time to focus on writing the boo any without distractions ( I used my phone to write too). I gave myself reasonable targets.
You can set aside 20 to 40 minutes a day to compile/write contents. It doesn’t have to be long hours of ‘rigorous’ writing. Intentionality matters. Make up your mind and tell yourself that you can do it.
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Yes, when done over a period of time in short segments it doesn’t become a burden at all! Just save it as you go! Thanks for sharing!
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You are welcome, Roth.
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Very true. I write first for myself and second for my children and grandchildren cause one day I’ll be gone and I want them to know the me that was other than mom and Nana
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Yes, you are very wise!
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Wonderful advice, which reads as a rousing call to action. I love the practical tips too. I need to do my Grandma’s first, I think. She told me so many stories and I don’t want them to be lost to the world.
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That would be great! I did the same with my grandfather’s stories.
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Inspiring and a very methodical and bit by bit approach to being able to write a memoir. And even if not published, it would still be a very valuable treasure for ones family and other loved ones.
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Yes, digital files can be saved for family as well. It is so important to pass on our small piece of history to our family.
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I have been thinking about this a lot for quite a long time. There are so many memories lurking around that should have been captured in words by now. Can’t agree with you enough😊…do you share snippets of your memoirs in your blog?
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Thank you. I had not thought of that. Might be an interesting addition. Just write them down one at a time. It works.
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Very sound advice. You make it seem doable for anyone!
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Wonderful idea, Dwight, and I know your family will cherish these memories you left them. “an avalanche might and intense” — perfect way of describing the examining and setting down of the past. Maybe that’s why some of us hesitate.
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Thank you Dora. Yes, perhaps we will conjure up some things we would like to forget as well. It all comes rushing back!
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Beautifully said! 🙂
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Thank you Sanaa!
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Love this post….and the explanations that follow. I’ve been completing the Memories of Mom books I bought for each of my two children years ago but never got finished. It has fun pages like “what was in your Christmas stocking where you were little?” What did you like most about high school? What was the first bedroom you remember like and what were your favorite toys? One thing I’ve always wished I had was an oral history of both my mom and dad….interviews of them on tape. Photos tell a lot and jog our memories. But all the old black and white photos of them dating, their childhood etc….I wish I’d had them when they were alive and asked them to talk about them.
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Thank you Lillian! It seems our children are always too busy with life to think about these things until it is too late. Time to finish your memoirs for your grandchildren. It is not all that hared. If you can blog, you can self-publish!
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What a loving last legacy you’ve given your family, Dwight! I wish so much that I knew more about my parents, grandparents, and their parents.
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Time to start on your own for your grandchildren!
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Children and sometime in the future maybe grandchildren. 😏
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Your children probably won’t value it as much as your grandchildren in the future!
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Actually, my older daughter is quite involved with doing genealogy and drawing and writing about our ancestors.
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That is so good to hear!
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I started writing mine a few years ago. When I was abducted, writing it all down was a way for my mind to survive. Later, when I was horribly assaulted in my home by an intruder, I went through such a trying time. Like becoming a POW. But I finally found my strength to be a survivor.
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Wow! Two traumas in a row. Writing can help, but that is pretty shocking. Glad your are OK!
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Thank you, but not 100%. It never really goes away.
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