Secrets of Aging

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     Aging carries with it secrets many are reluctant to tell. When one spouse begins experiencing dementia, the other often compensates by keeping it a secret as long as possible.
We saw this with my father-in-law a number of years ago. As he began to be confused at times, she would write the directions or an address on an index card for him to carry along, in case he forgot.
In one instant he came from volunteering at the local hospital and could not remember where he had parked his car. It took him two hours and some help from the staff to find it.
In time the secrets of dementia reveal themselves. At that point hard family decisions have to be made regarding the future.

Secrets of aging
Will always reveal themselves
Winter closes in…

Today at d’Verse, Merril asked us to think about secrets. They come in many forms, but none so sad as when we age. These are secrets we ususally can’t keep.

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36 thoughts on “Secrets of Aging

  1. I’m beginning to see slight changes in my Dad’s abilities and thought processes. He’s going to be 83. It’s expected I suppose but sad…and scary. I won’t mention it to my sisters, not because I want it to be a secret, but because I don’t want to worry them. Not yet anyway.

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  2. This is so true, Dwight, and so many of us have seen it in our own families. My father kept my mother’s dementia from us, always finding excuses for why she hid from visitors in the kitchen, until just before he died. You sum it up beautifully in your haiku.

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  3. This is so poignant. I can imagine people trying to keep dementia a secret, even from themselves. Thank you for sharing, Dwight.

    My mom has dementia, and she has become very forgetful. Unfortunately, she also has macular degeneration, so she can’t read notes or signs.

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