Fading Shades of Gray

Mother and Dad

Fading Shades of Gray  (a Hai bun)

Watching my father-in-law’s mind fade from shades of gray to black evoked a lot of emotion.  It became noticeable to my wife and me when we visited her parents in 2009. Driving us across Edmonton to the Science Center, he got mixed up and forgot how to get there. Apparently this happened before, because Mother had written the directions for him on index cards. Later she told us that one day he came out to the parking deck, after volunteering at the hospital and could not find his car. She kept tabs on him until 2012 when she developed a brain tumor.

Giving up his keys and driving privileges it was very hard on him, but the hardest thing for him to understand was when they were in separate care facilities. He would ask about her over and over, and could not quite comprehend what was happening. After she died, he kept expecting her to return. He is now 90 and seems to have adjusted to his confinement, even telling friends who visit that they should try to get a room there as well. He tells them that they take good care of him there.

Winter brain cells fade

Short term mem’ry turns to black

“Helen, Where are you?”

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Photo: Dwight L. Roth

Bjorn, at d’Verse~Poetry Pub asked us to write a Hai bun using the word gray. I chose to write on the graying effects of Alzheimer’s on the brain.

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45 thoughts on “Fading Shades of Gray

  1. The love is so potent when shared most of your life with that person. I cannot imagine the hurt and the confusion your father in law must have gone through even to this day of his wife not being there with him. He is blessed to have you two.

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  2. This so touched my heartstrings. I watched my mother’s memory fade to black. It is such heartbreak to lose someone while they are still living. Some call it the long goodbye. Well named, I think.

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  3. My great-grandmother is losing her memory, but she is in Mexico so I don’t see her much… I never really knew what she was like before she started losing it. 😦

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